ABRA KA DABRA- WORDS SHAPE YOUR REALITY

" I'm stupid " , " I'm an idiot ", " I cant even do anything properly "! How often do we talk to ourselves like this ? we would keep repeating the same pattern , doing the same thing , talking to ourselves the same way and expect from our lives to change . We don't even realise that the way we choose to speak to ourselves shapes our future . One cannot expect to have a great life and expect from everyone to respect us when we cant even respect ourselves and speak to ourselves respectfully and with kindness . No matter how many mistakes you make , no matter even if the whole world is speaking against you , you deserve to be loved and to be spoken with kindness . You do not have control over how others talk to you , but you have an entire control over how you choose to talk to you .

         The sentence ABRA KA DABRA is used by a magician while he while he moves his magic stick over a hat which means I create as I speak , and the same thig as it is applies to our life and we are the magicians who create our life through the words , the words we choose to utter and think even in over mind shapes our life and eventually our future, when we speak something very often to ourselves we start believing in it , for example if I stay to myself that" I'm Stupid " every time I make a minor mistake , and I tag myself the title of being a stupid , I'm establishing a belief which isn't even real , So if I believe in something I would act in the way that reinforces and strengthen the believe of me being a stupid, So somehow I will act in a way that strengthen the believe of me being a stupid so that my mind can scream " See I said it , you were stupid " . 

This all is a magic of our subconscious mind , who only wants to see things in accordance of what kind of information is already fed in it that made all the beliefs one has , and such beliefs are made from the kind of people we surround ourselves with , the shows we watch , the kind of people we follow on social media , all these things together build our beliefs and it is so not necessary that all those things are true , maybe be you are growing around a circle of peers / family where people around you are constantly dragging you down , talking down on you , disrespecting you . If they say something you might end up believing in them, be very cautious about who you surround yourselves with .

lets understand it through an example that how beliefs are built in childhood that follow us throughout our life , When a child is told that a Santa and tooth fairy exists , and those children actually end up cleaning that broken tooth and sleep with that tooth under the pillow so that the tooth fairy comes at night and exchange it with a golden tooth and those little innocent children believe in it , and with that much innocence if you tell them that they are" stupid " what do we expect from them to see themselves as ? when they are called stupid over and over again they actually end up believing that they are a Stupid and failure . 

We can't change what happened with us , we cant change our past and the things which are not in our control right now . We can start form today , so next time time you feel demotivated , upset , or you end up making a mistake , so instead of self sabotaging use affirmations , speak with kindness ...You are allowed to make mistakes and it is okay the problem is with not making mistakes , which shows you are not working enough according to your potential . Hence , every time to have self sabotaging thoughts on the basis of your belief . Start questioning yourself , like " Is this the fact ? Is this 100 % true ? that I'm good for nothing ?" you will surely find something you are amazing at just by questioning your wrong belief . And immediately after the realisation  affirm with " I'm not stupid I'm learning and evolving every single day" . Mind you this small shift of how you speak to yourself can bring a big change in your life .

From now replace "I can't "with " I ' m learning " , replace I'm not good enough with 'I'm learning and growing"

Words shape our inner world before they even before if touch the outer one . whether it comes from other or from within us , be very mindful about them . Words hold the capability of building or even destroying outer and inner world.

Keep speaking power into your life.

With Love 

Sandhee