Keys to the ultimate unshakeable Confidence

Everyone wants to be confident , and confidence isn't something one is born with . One works on it develops it with time , we cant expect to be confident by being the way we are right now , we cant expect the things around us to change, the life we have to change ,when we ourselves are not willing to change for shake of our own good . Confidence is more about trusting , and believing yourself . 

For example , I want to be fit and this is why I promised myself to workout every single day , however what happens the another day is , I don't show up even for 5 minutes ! what did I just do here ? I broke the promise I made to myself ! So am I ever going to trust the promise I make to myself next time? No ! Like the way we never trust that one friend who is never on time .So am I going to trust them the next time they say they will be on time ? We all the answer to this that , No!

Hence , if I'm promising myself something and do not show up for myself , I'm losing the trust on myself and which is the ultimate essence of building self worth , trust in self and eventually THE CONFIDENCE. 

We can start the journey of confidence building through baby steps , Like instead of making big promises and commitment to yourself , start with something very small , like set small goals . lets take the example of the gym again , instead of  making big commitment to lifting heavy weights and over exerting your self into the gym for two hours which is only going to leave you deflated , exhaused and sore . Which Your body would consider as a punishment that you  won't even want to show up again the other day , You can start with maybe a 20 min Yoga or pilates and gradually increase the time as the muscles become strong .

So through these baby steps , of building self trust one can acquire the confidence they desire to have . And this practice of taking baby steps is applicable everywhere , weather you want to build focus , start meditation start it with doing for 5 minutes and gradually increase the time . 

Hence , when I really keep the promises I make to myself , I build self trust and the confidence.

Cheery on the top is your appearance , When we look good we feel good and when we feel good we perform good . It is not entirely true how people say that looks don't matter ! According to me They do matter! Because the first thing anyone is going to see as my first impression is my looks or how I appear . Nobody is going to see how hardworking I'm or how talented I'm .That is why investment in appearance , including clothes , perfume etc can be a good investment which will make you feel good about you . 

Confidence is not loud , confidence is silent . People often misunderstand confidence with arrogance . You don't have to be arrogant and mean to look confident . You can be the politest one in the room and still be confident . You are not answerable to anyone for saying No, you don't have to reply to every hate comment made on you, you don't have to be available and acessible to everyone , you don't have to prove anyone that how smart you are just work hard and let the results speak for you. 

To sum up, confidence isn't something one is born with , we work on it , we acquire it.

Keep Shining , and spreading a bit of sparkle everywhere you go.

Love 

SANDHEE